long distance relationship

 

A long distance relationship is difficult, but not impossible. Although you may have strong feelings for your partner, time apart and lack of intimacy may put a strain on your bond. Nobody says it’s going to be easy. The extra miles make many things unachievable, but it also makes the simple things the sweetest. Here are some specific things to keep in mind to make yours a healthy, lasting love.

 

1- Stay Connected

 

Your relationship may deteriorate if you don’t regularly engage in little rituals to keep the connection. Don’t forget the small niceties like a tender goodnight call.

 

 

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2- Don’t Put Your Life on Hold

 

It’s important to not sacrifice more than is necessary, which can lead to resentment and regret. Don’t isolate yourself. Make sure you are making the most of my life.

 

3- Keep Each Other Updated

 

It’s helpful to know when the other person is busy when they’re free, so that you can contact them at the right time. Know the small and big events.

 

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4- Discuss Your Level of Commitment

 

Have discussions about what you want from yourself and your partner. Don’t assume that you are in the same place. Talk about the differences.

 

5- Use Technology to Connect

 

Send photos and videos throughout the day. Share memes or a thought-provoking article. Don’t just rely on phone calls. Keep it interesting and fun.

 

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6- Express Your Longing

 

Who doesn’t want to hear they’re valued and missed. Don’t be ashamed of your feelings of need and desire to be together.

 

7- Avoid “Dangerous” Situations

A partner who is far away will worry more if they don’t hear from you at an expected time. Things will come up, but let your partner know as soon as possible.

 

8- Stick to Your Meeting Times

 

A partner who is far away will worry more if they don’t hear from you at an expected time. Things will come up, but let your partner know as soon as possible.

 

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9- Don’t Over-Plan Your Time Together

 

It often feels like there is no time to waste. This might make you succumb to the urge to pack your time together so full that it stresses you out. Relationship intimacy is built on small moments too.

 

 

10- Give Them a Personal Gift To Hold On To

 

What you decide to give your partner doesn’t have to be big or expensive. Make it meaningful and personal, to serve as a sign hat you’ll miss them.

 

Distance doesn’t have to signal the end of a relationship. You just have to put in a little extra effort and get creative. Never lose sight of the bigger picture, and don’t give up.

 

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If you have any questions or require more information, please contact Lani here: lani@bridgecentertherapy.com