Healthy self-esteem is important as it helps you make positive choices in your everyday life, gives you courage to be yourself and helps you deal with difficult situations. Here are the best ways to build and improve your self-esteem.

 

 

1- Set Realistic Expectations

 

You will only berate yourself for not reaching your own unrealistic goals. Check your expectations if they keep disappointing you.

 

2- Challenge Bad Thoughts About Yourself

 

Celebrate the things you’re good at. Make a list of all the things you do well. Read it every time you start feeling low.

 

 

3- Learn to Accept Compliments

 

When you feel bad about yourself, you are resistant to praise when you need it most. Set a goal to tolerate compliments even if it’s uncomfortable.

 

4- Stop Comparing Yourself

 

You’ll always find someone who appears better than you. Your own life should be the yardstick. Their best may not be their best.

 

5- Replace the Perfectionism

 

Go for good enough or it can happen that things never get finished. Don’t slack off, but realize that good enough means you’re finished.

 

6- Master a New Skill

 

When you become skilled at something that is in line with your talents and interests, you increase your sense of competency.

 

 

7- Do Unto Others

 

Being of service to others helps you get out of your own head. When you help those who are less fortunate it makes you less focused on your own issues.

 

8- Focus on Forgiveness

 

Don’t feel angry or ashamed when you make a mistake. Forgive yourself and recognize that everyone makes mistakes.

 

9- Visualize Confidence

 

Close your eyes and relax your body. See and feel yourself confidently doing the activity for which you would like more confidence.

 

 

10- Seek Support

 

Peer support is important. Find supportive friends and mentors who can show you your worth and help you make your valuable contribution.

 

It sounds simple, but it’s not. It takes time and patience. Make the effort to be more fair with yourself and you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the results.

Need help? Call (510) 497-4174 today to schedule a free consultation with one of our Oakland counselors.

 

This post was written by Lani Gouws on behalf of The Bridge Therapy Center. If you have any questions or require more information, please contact Lani here: lani@bridgecentertherapy.com