You are not your best self when you are anxious. If you’re anxious, you might be:
– Edgy, pressured, tense, panicked, angry, miserable, manic, depressed.
– About the worst thing that might happen. About how you might have humiliated yourself last night. About the bad thing that happened to you, maybe a long time ago. Anxious thinking chases its own tail, and makes you feel worse and worse.
– That you are powerless to fix the big problems, that asserting yourself will make things worse, that you shouldn’t get help, that it’s hopeless.
– About a bad thing that happened to you (or trying not to think about it).
What’s it make you do? Drinking, TV, porn, shopping, compulsive OCD rituals, angry outbursts. People often do things that relieve them in the moment, but damage their lives, which leads to, you guessed it, increased anxiety. These are all forms of avoidance of challenges – and the inherent or imagined risks of failure, embarrassment, rejection, or making someone mad at you.
Acting anxious makes you more anxious, which makes you act anxious…
Anxious people often try the same thing over and over again – and are afraid to try something new, like, oh, say therapy.
I mean, you’ve tried lots of solutions on your own, right? Why keep trying, without an expert to help?
Anxious people are usually not doing these things:
– Developing the simple habits that can make them feel much, much better.
– Challenging and interrupting destructive thought reruns.
– Finding increasingly better ways to connect with other people.
– Doing one little thing after another that will quiet the anxiety, and free them to get on with their lives.
But you can.
Are you ready to take that first step toward peace and happiness?
You really can get there from here.