Bereavement is a painful, stressful and difficult journey at the best of times. Mourning the loss of a loved one is hard and the COVID-19 crisis makes it more difficult. Grieving during a pandemic is complicated. But, it’s important to do, even if that means finding a new approach. Here are some suggestions to help you shift your focus and manage your feelings of grief.
You have additional sources of stress associated with the pandemic. Don’t blame yourself for things that are out of your control.
It’s time to be creative, since typical funerals and customs may not be available. The new ones may even become better than some of your long-standing customs.
You will have good days and bad days and go through a whole range of emotions. Don’t start to believe that you are a burden or that your feelings are not valid.
Set a time to collectively remember the person you lost. You may be scattered across the country or the globe so you can’t meet. But, you can still connect.
It’s sensible to be aware of major announcements. Outside of that, watching the news may only increase your stress levels.
Think about what is most meaningful for you at funerals. Is it the readings, poems, pictures or music? Create something similar on a smaller scale to personalize the way you grieve.
Writing down your feelings is therapeutic. Keep it private or write a tribute to share with loved ones.
Don’t rush yourself through the process. Reaching a place of acceptance takes time. Give yourself time to work through the pain of loss.
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Grief is a normal response to loss, but the pandemic has upended many aspects of the normal grieving process. Grief is very personal, so, follow your unique process. Be open to different ways of grieving and have a clear coping plan.