Everyone experiences shame from time to time. It involves negatively judging yourself and believing that you failed to live up to your standards or the standards of others. It’s an intense discomfort that comes from feelings of inadequacy. Shame can be destructive, so it’s vital that you learn how to deal with it.
1- Recognize Your Triggers
When you feel shame settling over you, try to identify the feeling behind it before it can amplify. Practice not giving in to these triggers when you notice them and soon shame’s power over you will recede.
2- Mourn Your Wounds
Become a witness to your wounds. You need the ability to identify and sit with the pain caused by your past and present hurts.
Allowing yourself to be vulnerable offers you relief from having to hide from yourself. Resisting what you feel only creates more suffering.
Identify the physical signs. They are often similar to the physical changes associated with panic. This increases your chances of pausing, reflecting and learning.
Do you notice any areas of constant tension in your body. Yoga and movement in general can help you release and move through it. Stay present and focus on how the movement feels.
6- Let Go of the Past
Stop letting others and past events determine your worth. Forgive those who may have been the cause of your shame you’re experiencing.
7- Forgive Yourself
Do this despite what others think of you. You have to make this choice consciously and do it consistently until it eventually sticks.
What is your vision? Try making a list or creating a vision board. This helps you discover and work towards your better self.
You don’t have to feel this way forever. Move your attention outside of your head and be open to the beautiful things you never noticed before.
This post was written by Lani Gouws on behalf of The Bridge Therapy Center. If you have any questions or require more information, please contact Lani here: firstname.lastname@example.org