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When a relationship that you devoted so much time and emotion to ends, it can feel like there is no hope. It doesn’t have to be that way. You can think of it as an adventure to rediscover yourself. Here are a few tips to help you get control of your life and move forward.

 

1- Take It Slow

 

It can be tempting to bed someone new immediately, even if only to prove that you are still desirable. However, casual sex rarely heals what really hurts. 

 

 

2- Let Yourself Grieve

 

It is natural to mourn the lifestyle you lost even if you initiated the divorce. Take some time to be alone and grieve.

 

3- Learn to Love Yourself

 

You may feel self-rejection. Work on gaining confidence and faith in the fact that there is nothing wrong with you.

 

4- Prioritize Your Children

 

You need to help them understand what happened and how things will be different. Never speak badly about the other parent they love.

 

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5- Make Time for Yourself

 

Give yourself permission to do something special for you, every day. The happier you are, the happier your family will be. 

 

6- Discover a New Side of Yourself

 

Think about who you want to be. As long as the changes are healthy and constructive, look for chances to say yes to new experiences.

 

7- Learn to Let Go

 

Regrets and bitterness will only keep you stuck. Acknowledge these feelings and take only the lessons from your past experiences.

 

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8- Forgive

 

Carrying hatred towards your ex-spouse will only hurt you, not them. Forgiveness is essential to help you detach from your past.

 

9- Write Down a Plan

 

All you need are some simple steps you can start taking today. Where you know where you want to go, nothing can stop you.

 

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10- Make New Friends

 

You may feel like the odd one out in a paired up world. You need single friends. Time with new people means less time spent on painful memories.

 

11- Start Dating Again

 

Keep everything light and fun at first. You do not need to find your soulmate now. You just need someone to eat dinner with or watch a movie.

 

12- Get Support

 

Join a support group or find a compassionate therapist to help you address the baggage you are still carrying and gain control over where you’re going.

 

 

Now is a time of financial and emotional strain.Take the time to reflect and you will eventually find acceptance. It’s a process you need to go through to come out on the other side. Soon you will be on your path to freedom.

Do you need individual counseling? Call (510) 497-4174 to schedule your free consultation today.