If you have a partner in recovery you may want to know what you can do to help. While you can’t change the addict, there are things you can do to improve the chances of their recovery. Making changes in the way that you interact with the addicted person will put an end to enabling, while still showing you care about them. Here are 5 things you can do. Set Boundaries It’s important to set ground rules for your relationship to avoid potentially enabling the addict, feeling angry and frustrated and being manipulated. Boundaries protect your health and well-being, is more likely to benefit your partner and make the relationship more satisfactory for both of you. Get Educated The more you understand the better you’ll be able to help your partner. Understand the signs, treatments and what might trigger relapse. Then continue to be a source of support and accountability.
Accept and Don’t Judge Refrain from all kinds of criticism and negativity. Your partner will already feel like they are being judged by others. Express your love and praise the progress they are making on the road to recovery. Show Unconditional Love Let them know you still care about them. Let them know that you have their best interests at heart and that you are willing to support the changes they are making. Don’t Give Up The journey will be long and challenging. You may experience setbacks and be discouraged. Keep moving forward slowly. Think of it as a marathon. It’s critical not to give up. If you love and support your partner there are good reasons for you to feel hopeful.The more compassionate you are, the lower their defenses will be. If you show your partner that you are on the same side, you can fight the problem together. Do you think that couples therapy is right for you? We can help. Call (510) 497-4174 today.